Archive | October, 2013

Negative Emotions

30 Oct

 A goal for psychotherapy is to help the client be able to experience and accept the full range of experience and emotional reactions, including uncomfortable ones like anger and sadness. Real life has ups and downs. (Scientific American, 2013, 24, 2. pp. 26-27). Positive reactions are not the only ones that can be adaptive.

Kiss

27 Oct

Oxford University researchers found that kissing more than frequent sex indicates overall marital happiness. ( Health & Science. The Week, 2013, 13, 641, p. 17) 

Limits of Cheer

24 Oct

Scientific American (2013, 24, 2): Anger and sadness are an important part of life, and new research shows that experiencing and accepting such emotions are vital to our mental health” (p. 26). Therefore, don’t just accept the positive.

Friendship Tips

22 Oct

To strengthen friendships: 1) Share confidences, 2) Respect each other’s choices, 3) Make up after conflict, and 4) Be there through hard times.  (Scientific American Mind, 2013, 24, 2)

Quite a writer!

18 Oct

Jeanette Winterson’s (2011) Why be happy when you could be normal? is an autobiography as compelling as any novel. This author vividly renders her duel with madness to win clarity. She does win but not without deep scars that cover easily reopened wounds. Her story, as she herself notes, is one of many in literature and real life where the wound is very near the gift. She is a gifted artist who can recognize both her gifts and her personal limitations.

Mending the past

15 Oct

JJeanette Winterson (2011) in her novel, Why Be Happy When You Could Be Normal? ( New York, Grove Press) eloquently holds out the prospect of our mending the past and recognizes Freud’s contribution. She said, “Freud, one of the great masters of narrative, knew that the past is not fixed in the way that linear time suggests. We can return. We can pick up what we dropped. We can mend what others broke. We can talk with the dead” (p. 58).

Suffering

11 Oct

Michel de Montaigne: He who fears he shall suffer already suffers what he fears.