Archive | April, 2017

Novel Comments

30 Apr

The Days of Abandonment by the Italian writer Elena Ferrante (2002) is a tour de force. It is not a read for the fainthearted in its first-person depiction of the despair of a woman whose husband unexpectedly leaves her for another, much younger woman. The novel begins: “One April afternoon, right after lunch, my husband announced that he wanted to leave me.” After assuming blame, he promptly left.

His abandonment is quickly followed by the fragmentation of her sense of self, her relationships with others, including her children, and even objects as they become less solid and less manipulable by her. Ferrante’s detailed description of the woman’s fragmentation is so visceral and painful that I found it difficult to read. Sometimes I was tempted to abandon the book; however, each time I was drawn back into its intensity, into, in the author’s words, the “excessive reaction that pierced the surface of things.”

In the end, after falling into “the holes in the net of events,” the character regains some sense of herself, and the fragmentation lessens, but, to use a Ferrante metaphor of the net. she is not able to reestablish a tight, close weave in the net that supports her. http://www.finebergpsychotherapy.com

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Emotion

27 Apr

Taking photos increases the enjoyment of positive experiences and increases displeasure in unpleasant situations. (In brief. Monitor on Psychology, 2016, Sept., p. 24) http://www.finebergpsychotherapy.com

Wisdom

24 Apr

Ernest Hemingway: Never think that war, no matter how necessary, no matter how justified, is not a crime. http://www.finebergpsychotherapy.com

Self-Compassion

19 Apr

“As mounting evidence shows, self-compassion is typically a source of both personal and interpersonal strength, making self-compassionate individuals more emotionally stable, more motivated to improve themselves and generally better to be with.(p. 66)”(Krakovsky, M. The self-compassion solution. Scientific American Mind, 2017, 28(3) 64-69) http://www.finebergpsychotherapy.com

Humor

16 Apr

Albert Einstein: The hardest thing to understand in the world is the income tax. http://www.finebergpsychotherapy.com

Learning

13 Apr

It is easier for babies to learn the names of objects when these names include repeating syllables like night-night and choo-choo. ( In brief. Monitor on Psychology, 2016, Sept., p. 23) http://www.finebergpsychotherapy.com

Humor

9 Apr

Oscar Wilde: To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance. http://www.finebergpsychotherapy.com