Humor

24 Sep

Neil deGrasse Tyson: The good thing about science is that it’s true whether or not you believe in it. http://www.finebergpsychotheraoy.com

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Novel Comments

22 Sep

Those Who Leave and Those Who Stay is the third of Elena Ferrante’s (2013) four Neopolitan Novels. This novel further develops the central theme, the friendship between Lila and Elena. Elena, the main character, is both a writer and the teller of these tales. Elena leaves the neighborhood and the city, Naples, in which they grew up together as best friends. In her middle twenties, Elena becomes a renown novelist, lives in Pisa and Milan, and then spends her married life in Florence. Lila stays in or near the same working class neighborhood, where she leaves her abusive husband and then lives with a decent man and her son while she becomes a computer expert.

Elena and Lila are brilliant, creative, and unstable women with vague senses of who they are. They use each other to try to figure themselves out. Their relationship is at the very least always in the background of their lives. When their relationship moves into the foreground, usually for brief periods, it is intensely filled with deep attachment and ambivalence. They depend on each other but try not to. They love, hate, sometimes collaborate, and usually compete and criticize. Their lives interweave as each woman tries to define herself against the similarities and differences with the other.

Another major theme of this friendship is how to each of the two women relates to the men in their lives. In this novel, Elena tries a traditional feminine role as wife and mother, subservient to a man who does not truly see her. The man for whom she had competed with Lila in their youth comes back and, this time, chooses her. Leaving her husband and children, she chooses him. Lila chides her as a fool. I assume book four will explore this choice and its consequences.

Marriage

14 Sep

The happiness of spouses predicts the health of their partners. (In brief. In sickness and in health. Monitor on Psychology, 2016, December, p.14) http://www.finebergpsychotherapy.com

Happiness

10 Sep

Those people who value their time more than money are happier than those who value money over time. (In brief. Valuing time makes you happier. Monitor on Psychology, 2016, December, p.13) http://www.finebergpsychotherapy.com

Depression

3 Sep

JAMA recently reported that 14% of people 55 and older are depressed, and about 2% have a major depression. (How to lift late-life depression. Health After 50, 2017, September, p.1) http://www.finebergpsychotherapy.com

Exercise

31 Aug

In middle age, any type of of exercise more strenuous than walking is associated with better cognitive health 25 years later. (In brief. Keep moving. Monitor on Psychology, 2016. December, p. 13) http://www.finebergpsychotherapy.com

Health

27 Aug

Stress can reduce the benefits of eating healthy fats. (In brief. Stress eating. Monitor on Psychology, 2016, December. p. 11) http://www.finebergpsychology.com